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One of the things I’ve noticed is when people awaken and start changing habits and thinking patterns, friends and family react in a negative way.

This is usually because you’re rocking the boat in the family tribe. Other people around you may not have grown themselves emotionally, mentally, spiritually. You’re widening your perspective, reaching beyond the horizon, letting go of alcoholism, co-dependency, other addictions, breaking habits, and unlearning all the unhealthy things, and replacing them with healthier ones.

What most people encounter is a back lash of fault finding, nay saying, and mental and emotional abuse.

They don’t understand because they haven’t done the same, and they are still functioning on the dysfunctional ways of relating. The rules have changed for you, but most likely not for them.

When is it appropriate for No Contact. It’s not a subject that is easy for people to make, but many people do make it based on how healthy the environment is and whether there are chemical addictions involved.

No contact isn’t an excuse not to work on your life lessons, or avoid getting along with people. There are times when it’s necessary, and other times when people use it for the wrong reasons.

No contact happens when the parents or friends have done something wrong to you that violated you emotionally, mentally, or physically.

They repeatedly gas light you, manipulate, control, and mentally and emotionally abuse you with negative words that lower your self esteem and self-confidence you can’t see straight, and lost in confusion, depression, and desperation. There doing things to stop you from succeeding and sabotaging you’re every move. This is the extreme where there is no other solution.

No contact means no contact. And it’s loss and grief at the same time. So it’s not an easy task, and of course you love them and care about them, and sure they do, but they may minimize their actions and behavior and not realize the severity of the pain and suffering they are causing.

No contact would be a good thing after you have tried counseling and working things out with them, and you have tried everything possible to resolve the issues.

No contact shouldn’t be used to punish people, because this is basically your issue of being angry and having ill-intentions.

There are many people who do this, and unless someone really has harmed you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually where it is absolutely not repairable it’s not a good ending for anyone.

If you need to take a time-out for a certain amount of time, than this gives both parties to heal and see things differently. They also may learn new ways of communicating and coping.

So it’s necessary to always leave the door open unless it is advised by many people and they agree with you, that this situation just will never change.