Other People's Perception of You

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We may get emotionally charged when we hear others tell us something we don’t want to hear. We are oblivious to how we come out to others through our actions and words.

We blame the other party and believe they’re the problem. The way we perceive things can be debilitating to what we are trying to communicate to another person.

Personalities clash because we perceive things differently. Personality types do see things differently, process emotions, feelings, and thoughts differently.

We may get emotionally charged when we hear we’re not handling the situation appropriately.

We may be more dominate and force our inner energy on someone else out of our anger, bitterness, and resentment.

Someone may perceive you as docile and shy if you’re an introvert. And someone may perceive you as harsh and rigid if you’re an authoritarian.

You may appear lazy, focused on the wrong things, and appear to be disinterested in the relationship if all your focus is on video games, smoking pot, and drinking alcohol.

When you talk about your problems all the time, people may perceive you as playing victim.

You may leave people in the dark by not communicating what is on your mind and leaving them standing there trying to figure out what’s on your mind. What did you mean by that?

You may appear to be playing mind games if you’re with another woman or man.

What are you doing negative or positive to display your character in the right perspective?

People go by what they see you do, and what you say. You may mean one thing, but act a totally different way. Observe your actions, motives, and intentions.

How does your thoughts, emotions, and feelings line up with what you say and do?

Do you mean what you say? Do you complain about verbal, emotional, mental, and spiritual abuse, but do the same thing at the same time?

Are you committed, have the drive, determination, and focus to direct your life in the right direction? Many times our focus can be on some other man or woman instead of our spouse and children.

We focus all our passion and energy towards one person at a time. If you’re with two partners your only focusing one of them and neglecting the other.

The neglected person knows something is wrong, and justified to be angry and upset. From their perception you’re not being faithful and loyal in the relationship. Instead of investing in them, you’re focused on the third party. Normally when we do this, it ends very badly because two people have invested their time and energy into you, and have false expectations appearing real. They’re expecting you to live up to your part in the relationship and you can’t simply do it with a divided heart.

You may take too long to respond or take action in the relationship and waiting for them to move first. They may feel you’re not interested.

They may feel you’re being insensitive and rude. Perhaps you’re not into emotions and feelings because of your personality type, and overbearing, dominate, and controlling. The other person may be all about emotions and feelings. What can you do to understand them better and yourself interacting with them?

They may feel you are demanding and impatient. What can you do step back and learn patience?

They may feel you lack good listening skills and never listen to what they say. Perhaps from their point of view, you ignore what they say, dismiss them, and do what you want to do.

Whatever the feedback from other people take it with a grain of salt, evaluate what they say, and observer yourself interacting with others. How can you make improvements? It’s not something to beat yourself up with, it’s feedback to help you learn and grow in the situation. Stay neutral about feedback and use it for leverage to become a better person.

You may even believe they change and you don’t. Most of the time we do have to take our eyes off what someone else is doing and saying and pay attention to what we are doing.

It’s hard enough to keep track of your own thoughts, feelings, actions, and words, allow other people take care of themselves and be in control of their own experience.