Tips to Beat Breakup Blue's

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⚜ Count Marco ⚜ (countmarco)

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I am trying to compile a list of tips to combat and beat the Blues when we experience breakup. I would love to hear other new and interesting points that I have not considered or remembered.

We all know breakups are hard. But if you handle it right it could help you become a better person and move into the next season of your life with maturity, joy and appreciation. There are a number of dos and don’ts that are incredibly helpful when you are trying to negotiate the aftermath of a breakup.

THE DO’S

Clearance

Get rid of shared items and memories. Well since they are now out of your life. Put an end to your online friendship on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and any other social media sites. Block their number and get rid of anything that emotionally ties you to them. Delete all the photos you took together. This may sound drastic and dramatic but there is no way you are going to heal if all these reminders still hang around you. Don’t you start building some sort of shrine to their memory! You will scare your potential next partner when they walk into your home and see the walls covered in hundreds of photos of your Ex!

Acceptance

Accept that the pain will occasionally come back. Whether you are the one whoever ended it the truth is, it will still hurt. Acknowledge that you are in pain and cry it out if you have to. Call your friends and be open about how you feel. The temptation will be to suppress the sore feeling and act all tough and hard. You don’t have to act tough, it’s okay to admit that you are hurting within and you need to work through it.

Process your feelings and seek to heal. From the time you start feeling better think through the relational decision that you made leading up to the breakup. What part did you play in the relationship failure? What are you going to do about it? Maybe you can pick up relationship books on the issues that you were able to pin down.

Practise Self-love

Singleness is not bad but it can be lonely. With the loneliness sometimes comes self-loathing and self-blame. You need to practise self-acceptance. Write down your best qualities and what you still like about yourself. Horrible relationships can leave us feeling worthless with dented self-esteem. The singleness is time to rediscover some of the things that you loved about life and about yourself that you may have forgotten or gave up during the dating period.

Fill the Space

Now that you are single spend your time doing enriching activities. You could go hiking, take a new course, run a marathon or organise and event. Go for a massage or pamper yourself; buy something nice to cheers yourself up. Take a break. Do things that could distract you from the pain and start to make you feel a little happier. Hey, have a good psychic reading and see what interesting things are coming along on your horizon! Remember you now no longer answer to noone! That in itself can be quite liberating.

The relationship will have given you an idea of what you would like in a relationship and what turns you on. But also will have given more insight as to what you do not like. This is going to be really beneficial to you further down the road when you are healed and ready to love again.

Music

Change all the type of music you listen to for about 4 weeks.

Change Routine

Change your routine; go to the gym at different times, socialise in different places at different times.

THE DON’TS

Don’t Speak Bad About Your Ex

Even if it was your ex who was in the wrong, try as much as possible to avoid talking ill about them. You may end up reconciling and you could end up with egg on your face. If you have nothing positive to say about them then say nothing about them.

Don’t Abuse Drink and Drugs

You may feel its great way to numb the pain. But you can’t stay drunk or high forever and then the pain will hit you even harder.

Breakup Sex

Don’t choose to have lots of Breakup sex with all different partners. Also never have rebound sex, nor try to use sex with other partners to self-medicate or as a revenge. You are simply hurting yourself. Lastly don’t try to fake it till you make it, pain is natural with due time and proper support you’ll pull through.

Stalking

Don’t monitor everything your ex is now posting on social media. Its very unhealthy and certainly will not help you move on.

Contact

Don’t text them to see ask if they are ok; there is no merit or future in it.

The other don’t are:

Don’t Cherish Your Hurt Feelings

Don’t Indulge In Guilt

Don’t Idealise A Relationship That Had Problems

Don’t Repeat Your Mistakes

Don’t Isolate Yourself

Now please tell me what are your Top tips to overcoming Breakup Blues…

over 7 years ago
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Maharaani (raani)

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Great article!

over 7 years ago

Very good article !

over 7 years ago
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⚜ Count Marco ⚜ (countmarco)

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Thanks Guys I am interested in everyone’s top tips. Please provide if you get the chance. Blessings

over 7 years ago
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⚜ Count Marco ⚜ (countmarco)

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One of my wonderful clients thought of another one; she said she goes for long walks regularly, but on breakup she always goes for long walks in the Rain!! Wonderful…really liked that idea…. Blessings Come Speak to me soon! Count Marco

over 7 years ago
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⚜ Count Marco ⚜ (countmarco)

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New Memories – New Plan – New You! Start to make new memories and certainly work on a totally new plan. Change all routines and start to let your new life start to flow in!

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⚜ Count Marco ⚜ (countmarco)

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The hardest thing it seems I need to sell is sometimes it just takes a level of discipline and acceptance. Sad as an ending maybe – remember an ending also offers you a new beginning..