Healthy Men Want A Woman With Self Worth

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Often a woman is expecting a man to fill her up, rescue her, make her feel better, and whole and complete. While these are natural feelings and desires, most woman get frustrated when it never happens and the man leaves, ignores her, or avoids her.

Why? You are putting expectations on them, and when you expect anything it is usually not returned. Mature love asks you too, let go of the expectations. It also requires you to take responsibility of how you’re acting towards the man in your life. He can not save you. He can not rescue you from your loneliness. He can not take your pain and suffering away. He can not make you whole and complete.

It requires you to grow up and mature in your relationship. When you find your self worth and stand up on your own two feet you are more attractive to the man in your life.

When you have your own hobbies, interests, and activities you have something to do with your time other than complaining about how empty your life is, and how lonely you feel in the moment. You should have a life of your own independently and a network of friends to support you and encourage you through your day.

A man was never meant to entertain you twenty four hours a day. When you find your self worth you will find you don’t need someone to hold your hand all the time, or kiss you all the time, or be affectionate all the time. You won’t need them to give you gifts all the time. You will know he absolutely loves you because he is simply a part of your life.

When you are busy with other things it gives him a chance to think about you, miss you, and wonder what you are up too. He is glad to see you when you are around, and give you affection, kiss you, and give you nice things, because he has time to pursue you, and enjoy the hunt.

Men are natural hunters, and they enjoy the chase. Also they desire someone they feel safe and at home with no matter where you are in the moment. Nagging, complaining, aruging, and bickering over everything they do, only pushes them farther away from you. Allow them to be their authentic selves, and true self. If they can’t be themselves around you, they won’t stay. Men like a quiet and comfortable home. Most of them don’t like chaos and drama if they are healthy and happy individuals themselves.

Being critical and judgmental pushes them away because it is tearing them down, and not making them feel good about themselves. If you are always chasing them around with and iron fist they don’t perceive this as being what they want, or need in their lives. A man doesn’t want a mother, but a companion and friend to share his life with every day. Men need to be nurtured, and cared for. Men appreciate a woman that knows how to think of him as well as herself and making sure they are both in healthy environment that is for their highest good and well being psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Healthy men don’t abuse you in the fist place, and don’t tolerate abuse of any kind. Verbally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, this harms the soul and spirit of a woman or man. A woman of worth and pure love allows a man to just be in the moment. A healthy man knows how to set emotional, spiritualy, and mental boundaries with you, and won’t allow you to treat him like dirt in the first place.

It is easy to worry about what a man is doing, but he is only reacting to you, by how you are reacting to him. You have to take your eyes off how a man is acting in front of you, and act appropriately. Your facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice displays whether you are showing love or affection. If you want a man to love you, you have to act out love and speak love to his heart. You have to understand a man’s language.

So it’s easy to play the victim and complain you are not getting enough from the relationship, but how much love are you actually giving in the relationship. The majority of woman are showing anger, resentment, and hostility. Men are always to blame, and the women never do anything wrong. While it may be hard to own up to your own behaviors, you have to take responsibility for the part you play.

If you treat a man with respect and do nice things, he will naturally do the same for you. Men are not idiots, they know what to do with a woman. Emotionally unavailable men will not treat you with respect, and this is where you have to ask yourself if the relationship is worth saving. When you find you have self worth, you will not waste your time on abusive relationships, but have enough self love and respect for yourself to understand you deserve the best and not settle for men that will only leave you behind with a broken heart.

Hattiemattiemae September 15, 2013

I love this!!!!